of Lena Kaufmann
grandma and grandpa play in the lives of young families a major role. The cliché of the socks knitting grandmother and grandfather, who smokes in the wing chair pipe is long outdated. Many grandparents are often themselves still in the working world. They have their own hobbies and interests, but are also willing to stand up for their grandchildren.
Beautiful memories of Grandma and Grandpa
the smell of grandma's apple pie I'm still in the nose. "-" My grandfather knew the funniest stories. I have not forgotten it to this day. "-" That I am so close to nature, I owe to my grandmother. Because I was made aware in a special way for plants and animals "These statements are representative of many other and provide the proof. Also, adult grandchildren, who are themselves perhaps parents or even grandparents, remember Decades later, still likes to their grandmas and grandpas. No matter how old is the grandson Granny and Grandpa to stay in most cases, closely related - even if they are long dead. This is the result of a study during which the psychologist Dr. Sabine Hoier, University of Kassel, about 1800 adults interviewed after their former relationship with Grandma and Grandpa. "Over 90 percent had mostly positive experiences with the grandparents," says Dr. Hoier.
The explanation is obvious: not grandma and grandpa who have responsibility for the upbringing of their grandchildren. You need to not bother with the thousands of small everyday things in der Summe oft zu Stress und Frustrationen bei Eltern und Kindern führen: Streit unter Geschwistern, zerrissene Hosen, Ärger mit der Lehrerin, der ewige Zank ums Fernsehen, das Mäkeln am Essen, die endlose Trödelei der Kinder am Morgen, wenn eigentlich alle pünktlich das Haus verlassen sollten.
Von all dem bleiben Großeltern in den meisten Fälle verschont. Sie können alles mit mehr Abstand sehen und sind gelassener. Und sie dürfen das Enkelkind hin und wieder auch verwöhnen – am besten mit viel Zeit. Eltern sollten dabei kein schlechtes Gewissen haben. Denn es tut ihren Kindern einfach gut, einen Ort zu haben, an dem sie einmal auftanken und die Regelmäßigkeiten of everyday life forgotten. Once with Grandma and Grandpa to stay up late into the night and watch an old movie or wasting your whole afternoon with natter and card games: The benefits are enjoyed by children only with their grandparents. Parents can rest easy. Because even small children learn very soon that are at Grandma and Grandpa other laws than at home.
grandparents: a strong team
But grandparents must share in most cases, the favor of the grandchildren with the other grandparents. "Jealousies are very normal there," said Dr. Sabine Hoier. "It depends a lot on your parents, how well the relationship between the two sets of grandparents is. Because they bear the responsibility. "This means that they talk with the children carefully and respectfully over both sets of grandparents. "The important thing is that the grandparents have contact with each other," says the psychologist. "Even if there are people with whom one does not have much else in common: love for their grandchildren is a strong bond." And the grandchildren always does well when her two grandmothers and Grandpa's are good.
also sometimes think of themselves
Even if today's grandparents do not fit into the typical grandma-grandpa-role stereotype and - far from it - look young and dynamic: "The grandson care for all respondents is the most significant aspect of life," Dr. Sabine Hoier has experienced in its survey. "Rn grandmothers this care has always been important. But do the Grandfathers here caught up enormously. "There is even used by the profession has very stressed and irritated caring father to grandfather, for the time with the grandchildren highest priority.
grandparents should the other hand, even their lives because of the grandchildren not transform completely. "It is important that they maintain their activities," advises Dr. Sabine Hoier. "If grandparents neglecting the raison their own needs, creeps in the long term dissatisfaction." Very important for children that grandparents history experience them. They are witnesses of a time to know the children usually only heard about. Grandchildren depend on banned grandparents face when they tell about Mom and Dad's childhood days. Or if the journey goes further and leads to the childhood of their grandparents. Source: http://www.katholisch.de
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